Carmena Su, 47, and James Wvinner, 64, live in Blenheim, New Zealand, with their seven-year-old daughter. They both work as yoga teachers, and run a film production company
The first time Carmena saw James, she knew he was the man she was going to marry. They were at an intensive two-month yoga course in Australia Carmena was 28 and from New Zealand, and James, 45, was from the US and she spotted him on the first day by the door of the yoga studio. He was sitting down, he had this awesome chest, dreadlocks, and I saw immediately he had such a beautiful warmth to his eyes, she says. A psychic had told her that she would meet her husband before her 29th birthday. I saw him and I thought: Thats the guy! I was in total disbelief, she says. I was terrified, actually. I was like: What happens if he rejects me? She turns to him. After class, you came up to me.
I think you came up to me, says James. We both have tattoos, so we started talking about them.
The groups routine was to rise at 2am to practise yoga until 8am, then have a nap, breakfast, then do whatever you want, James recalls. After about two weeks, a few of them arranged to go out for dinner, but only James and Carmena turned up. Afterwards, they had a moonlit walk on the beach, then rather less romantically kissed for the first time by a garishly lit service station before going their separate ways to their accommodation.
Did James feel that same instant connection? A bit. Something happened the first time we were together. I felt that this was a very special person and this wasnt to be taken lightly, this moment.
When Jamess visa ran out three months later and he returned to the US, they planned to continue the relationship long-distance but it was a wrench. Its funny because Ive always been very detached around romantic feelings, but this was so all-encompassing, says Carmena. I cried for, like, six weeks, and we were calling each other every day.